Learning journey
Wanting Control
“Take the lead — and understand what that responsibility carries.”
You are drawn to control: setting the agenda, directing what happens, being responsible for an experience. This journey covers the practicalities and psychology of control-based dynamics.
Your path — 7 lessons
1.What does Dom and Sub mean?
5 min readDom and Sub refer to the roles within a power dynamic. A Dom (or Dominant) is the person who leads, …
2.What are power dynamics and why do people want them?
5 min readA power dynamic is a consensual agreement in which one person takes a more directive or controlling …
3.What are control dynamics and how do they work?
4 min readControl dynamics involve an agreed structure in which one person has authority over aspects of the o…
4.How does consent work in kink?
5 min readConsent in kink operates on the same principle as consent anywhere — an informed, enthusiastic, ongo…
5.How do safewords work?
5 min readA safeword is an agreed word or signal that either person can use at any moment to pause, slow down …
6.What should your first conversations about kink cover?
4 min readYour first conversations about kink do not need to be comprehensive — they need to be honest. The go…
7.What is aftercare and why does it matter?
4 min readAftercare is the period of care, comfort and reconnection that follows an intense scene or experienc…
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